Child sexual abuse

Wow...serius topic is it? Child sexual abuse…Do u know how much statistics of child sexual abuse in Malaysia? It is between 20%-40%..not so high in term of percentage but it should be no percentage at all!

It is so poor with those kids who face this kind of abuse. Berat mata memandang berat lagi bahu dipikul. How about their future? How they can be happy? How can they get their dignity back?

And our most hot topic is regarding Nurul Huda. Who can forget about this young girl who had been raped and then murdered..Thanks to Adibah Noor which dedicated the song “Terlalu istimewa” to this poor girl..Read the lyrics..it really has a deep meaning.

And now we all are worried about Mohd Nazrin who had been lost from Sogo two weeks ago. Speaking of Mohd Nazrin, some of us will think that he should be ok..he is a boy..nothing happen to him..Well.. Child sexual abuse can be happen to any kids, girl or boys-no doubt about it. Hopefully, he can be found safely.

Back to the topic..last week I had attended a seminar regarding Protect and Save The Children. Of course.. a seminar..u know..talk and talk..and I also want to fall asleep as well.. But, I believe I gain something from the seminar.

Before this, I never realize that our children are open to the sexual abuse. In our norm, especially Malay society..we are not open to talk about sex to kids..parents never discuss about it with their kids..But, if you think clearly..we are not ashamed to speak using bad words..therefore why need to be ashamed to talk about fact. Here, I agreed 100% if sexual education is include in primary school co-curriculum education. Let’s them get a better view of it through formal education – a truth about it- what can be done and what not –rather than they watch it from movie, internet, dvd, etc. They will have a misconception about it.

And why do I say that sexual education is important? It is for them - they will understand what it is look alike. They will know that there are no one can touch their private part. Nobody!! I think that it is so poor that these kids had been sexual abuse just because at first, they don’t know anything about it. They even don’t realize that they had been raped actually. What they know is that they feel pain and they don’t like it. Terrible isn’it?

When talk about sexual abuse education..we are not just inform them about sexual thing. We discuss about the offenders too. Many kids when we ask how they think what offender look alike. Their answers will something like..”Pak cik yang muka garang, selekeh, badan besar”..haha..looks scary la..Well, actually nope. The offenders can come from people all around you..The more sweet they are, the more chance he/she can “get” you.

In our society also, basically we hear.. when parents want to go out and leave their children at home, they will leave a note saying that , “If Pakcik Ali datang, bagi dia ni..If ader org datang nak hantar barang, amik jer. Or nanti ader orang datang nak amik barang, mak dah tinggalkan kat atas peti sejuk, bagi kat die.” Don’t you realize that this thing can be the first steps to bad things happened (small thing lead a major thing happen). In oversea, there are laws regarding children protection. If there are no parents at home, that person although had been give permission by children to enter at their home, they still can’t do so. They can be sued - if at that time they enter to that house, anything happen to those kids. Malaysia supposedly follows these laws. And parents also, from now stop leaving that message to their children.

Well..that’s from me now. Hope there will be no “Nurul Huda” victim again in our society.